July 20, 2010 - 1:25pm — Aegle
I need help. I generally don't ask others but, please. I trust you guys...
Earlier in the year I became friends with a girl. A girl that many people disliked because she was different and very secluded. She literally drew me in. I had to be her friend. I strived to be her friend.
She has a best friend. Not just any best friend. They know each other inside out. They basically are each other. And they are extremely possessive of one another.
Later in the year my friend grew away from me. Not that we had ever got to close. We never hung out outside of school for a reason I did not know at the time. The reason was her best friend. She told me this: "[My Best Friend] dislikes you. [My Best Friend] told me to tell you...that I hate you." She told me she had to stop talking to me. I told her how upset I was and she told me that she was nothing to care that much about. We were silent. She seemed truly torn between me and her best friend.
I was shattered but a few days later she came back to me saying that she felt bad. She cared about me. All was well for two weeks.
I walked into class and she looked at me and said "We can't talk anymore." I accept it immediately because I wanted her to be happy.
But I've been depressed as of lately. Actually the past 5 or more months this has been going on. I don't know why I care about her so much. I long to have her back. I envy her relationship with her best friend. I can't take this.
I understand being really close friends with someone. And though I evidently "don't understand their relationship"; I think I do. I had a friend like that and she left me in the dust. I've become the unused toy on the shelf. But I feel like her best friend is jealous of me. She fears me taking her place. And so she disposed of me. But in order to strengthen your relationship, you need trust. She should trust her to be my friend.
The worst part is I want to take her best friends place. I am what they fear.
I have terrible anxiety. I wanted to be friends with both of them but once her best friend disliked me; I shut down. I wanted to ask why, but I fear what will happen.
What to do?
It's tearing me apart. What I don't understand is why I care so much.
I doubt this makes sense. I just...I'm a mess.
Aww man, stay away from
Find someone else. Seriously. People who already have a best friend usually don't have space for more.
I don't think you really want to be friend with someone who are THAT possessive anyway. In the end, it's just annoying.
And don't make it more complicated than it is. People tend to think too much, and that just expands the problem. Take one day at a time, and you'll be fine without her (:
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